[Commentary by Dheeraj Raina: This post is published under Uzma’s byline because it’s a previously unpublished post of hers. To read my approach to her unpublished work, read this. Though this particular post references “Muslim Platitudes for Illness,” her observations apply equally to all faith-based platitudes, irrespective of religion — just replace Allah with appropriate other God(s). Uzma was deeply spiritual and religious. However, she hated it when people used such platitudes to try to comfort her. She found such attempts hollow and empty. This post is essentially about that frustration.
I have edited this post’s formatting. Words I have added are in italics. Enjoy!]
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This is what I hear over and over again.
I believe in prayers and miracles but these thoughts seem to have a pattern and classic content.
I hope for remission, I pray for recovery. But people do get better and some don’t.
Muslim platitudes for Illness:
1. When first sick
May Allah heal you, I will pray for you.
2. Illness prolonged
It’s not an illness , it’s a test. I will pray for you.
3. Still sick
Duas (prayers) change things. Keep praying.
4. Still quite sick
Shifa (healing) is in hands of Allah, keep asking.here are these things you should recite every day.
5.Still sick and worse.
Miracles happen all the time. I am praying for a miracle. Keep reciting what I sent you.
6. Patient suddenly better for one day
I told you never give up Hope , see how things change when you pray.
7. After 24 hours – Still sick, worse and may be terminal.
Death is inevitable. Whoever lives, will taste death.There is time to repent. Stay strong, keep faith .
8. Deathly ill
Now who can really interfere with Allah’s plans. He decides what is best. There is always a reason why prayers aren’t accepted. They wash away sins.
We came from Him and shall return to Him. I will pray for the departed soul.
10. Someone else gets sick.
Rinse and repeat.